While the holidays are typically joyous occasions, they can also bring sadness to those who are mourning a loss of a loved one.
Easter can be particularly difficult as it is a holiday that celebrates life, renewal, and joy which can trigger feelings of loss and loneliness. If you know someone who is struggling, don’t hesitate to reach out.
Here are 5 meaningful ways to make someone’s life a bit brighter this weekend.
Touch Base
It’s important to understand that there is no specific timeline for moving on—grief is something personal and unique. Whether they have experienced a loss in the past month or years, make sure to check in and see how your loved one is doing. Pick up the phone and give them a call. Be an active listener and remember, it isn’t always easy to find the right words to convey your sympathy—and it’s okay. “I want you to know I am here and I care,” is a sincere way to express empathy and compassion.
Make Plans
If they don’t have plans to celebrate the holiday, invite them over to spend time with you. Take them to see a light-hearted movie, share a meal or a cup of tea. Include them in your family’s get together. Remember, you don’t need to be over-protective of their feelings. Monitoring what you say, how much you laugh or how much fun everyone else is having may be counterproductive to their healing. Instead of highlighting their fragile state, focus on the reason they accepted your invitation— to surround themselves with other people. Shifting your attention to creating normalcy is a positive way to show you care.
A Thoughtful Gesture
Some people may prefer to spend the day alone. Avoid putting too much pressure on someone who is insistent. Instead, drop off a warm basket of muffins, a plate of food, fresh cookies or a vase of beautiful blooms. An unexpected gesture is enough to brighten anyone’s day. Share your sentiments in a handwritten note and leave it on their doorstep. There will be other occasions to visit, respecting they have chosen to sit this one out.
Be Present
Ask if there is anything you can help them accomplish. Perhaps they haven’t had an opportunity to build baskets for their children or grandchildren. Offer to run to the store or help with the assembly. Sometimes it’s a matter of making sure they have something to do to keep their minds occupied even if only for part of the day. Be mindful of what they need, whether it’s a ride to church, a homecooked meal or even a hug—there are a variety of ways to lend a hand.
Share Memories and Reflect
Consider a moment of reflection among the group. Create a “Memory Basket” and encourage loved ones to write down a memory, placing each memory inside an egg for the Easter basket. When everyone is gathered, open the eggs, read and share the memories, reflecting on the moments that were most cherished and filled with love. While not everyone may want, or be ready to share, hearing how much a loved one is still treasured is a beautiful experience to share with the group.
