Dear Diane,
I recently landed a full-time position at an engineering firm that was in my top three choices when I was finishing up school. I am extremely grateful for the opportunity to learn from some of the best in the industry. It’s an entry-level position, and I know I have lots of work to put in as my career continues to grow. I feel ungrateful even saying this, but I’m missing something. By the time I get home after a long day, I default to Netflix and takeout. Any tips on how to bring the “spark” into my week?
Thanks,
Kaylee S.
Dear Kaylee,
I appreciate your honesty and admire your willingness to work hard to achieve your goals. You are smart to assess your current routine and take note of your emotions and daily commitments. The habits you establish during the next few years can have a big impact on your stress levels, career growth and relationships.
Here are a few tips for implementing into your life:
Feed Important Friendships
During the first few years of your professional journey, it can be easy to push relationships with friends and loved ones aside. Doing so can leave you feeling disconnected and discouraged. Even if you have to shorten the window of time (a quick meal instead of a dedicated weekend), stay consistent in seeing one another. Your “date” will give you something to look forward to during a hectic day and will provide you with a good reason to leave work at work. Upon arriving, make the minutes count by putting your phone away and thoughtfully engaging in conversation. Get in the habit of checking-in between visits by sending a warm text or leaving a sweet or upbeat voice memo.
Build Rapport but Maintain Boundaries
Be visible by attending work functions and participating in committee or volunteer activities but reserve the right to fill your calendar (and to-do list) carefully. You’ll do a better job when you are passionate about the cause and will make a better impression. Your attitude may suffer when you are over-committed or drained. Although there are times when putting in long hours is necessary, be mindful that it doesn’t become your new norm.
Expand Your Network
As you map out your commitments, leave room for local organizations and associations with other like-minded professionals. You never know where a connection may lead and meeting new people outside of the four walls of your office can be invigorating. Implement your networking skills to make yourself appear self-confident and in control.
Change Things Up
Challenge yourself to do something unexpected; it could be as simple as exploring a new area of the city or as intimidating as asking someone on a date if you’re single. If you work behind a computer most of the day, get outdoors and volunteer with an organization such as Habitat for Humanity. You may be surprised at how refreshing working with your hands can be. No matter what adventure you choose, you’ll come away seeing the world just a little differently.
Prioritize Self Care
We’ve all heard the saying, “You can’t pour from an empty cup. Take care of yourself first.” Self-care is more than a one-time spa retreat – which is nice if you can afford it. It’s adequate sleep, quiet time for reflection, getting your body moving through exercise and feeding your mind. There are so many opportunities to gain insight and knowledge at the touch of your fingers. Find a TED Talk or a mastermind group in your area and join in.
The bottom line is that it is up to you to make yourself interested and interesting. It sounds like you are on the right track with your job but to be truly well rounded you will need to put forth some effort.
Good luck,
Diane
