Dear Diane,
I would like your opinion on something. I recently found the Enneagram personality types and the information has been illuminating in how I approach both my personal and professional relationships. I was introduced to this test by a good friend, and it’s been fun to connect with like-minded people and discuss our results. Having learned that I am what’s called a “Type 4” (The Individualist), I’m wondering if you may be able to provide me with some career guidance.My strengths are finding a great deal of fulfillment in being creative and connecting with others. That said, I am often discouraged when I don’t receive praise for a job well done, especially after I pour so much of my heart and time into projects at work. I also struggle with feelings of self-doubt and discouragement. I’ve recognized this pattern in myself and want to do what I can to boost my confidence and press ahead.
Thanks for your help,
Miguel R.
Dear Miguel,
Coincidentally, I have recently run across the Enneagram types thanks to an article on Forbes.com. There are so many personality tests available, and many offer insight to help you determine your particular strengths and how you operate most optimally. The Enneagram Test, which is another take on personality types, seems to be enlightening and easy to digest. Regardless of what kind of test you take, you are wise to apply your newfound knowledge to your work, colleagues, friends, family and your company’s leadership team.
The Individualist
You mentioned being a Type 4; from what I understand, you have the ability to seek (and find) beauty in everyday life. You are creative and likely have a wonderful sense of humor, both great assets in the workplace and beyond. Your knack for reading other’s emotions and adapting can be quite a gift in business negotiations and client relations as well.
Asking for Feedback
Concerning your feelings of discouragement at lack of praise/feedback from your supervisor, I would recommend you pinpoint the right time to broach the subject with your boss. Perhaps ask for a one-on-one where you can communicate your desire to debrief on important projects and receive constructive feedback. Let them know you are hoping for this information because you want to improve your performance and would like to know if their perception of your strengths lines up with yours. Attempt to work with their schedule, even if it’s quarterly or twice a year.
Positive Affirmations
When it comes to self-doubt, I applaud you for knowing that much of this work is something you’ll need to resolve within yourself. Write down your strengths and the things you have accomplished. When you catch yourself in a cycle of negative self-talk, have a handful of positive, personalized affirmations you can recite (aloud or in your mind) to quiet your thoughts. Ask a trusted friend or partner to share three qualities they admire most about you and channel the praise into fuel for times when you aren’t feeling as confident. Look for outlets of encouragement, such as joining a local mastermind group where you can share ideas and cheer one another on.
Adventure
Something that seems to uplift all personality types is making time for lighthearted fun and adventure. We tend to be hardest on ourselves and give other people much more room for error. When you are feeling low, do something that lifts your spirits like exploring local art museums, going to an afternoon movie, getting a spa treatment or meditating. We all have ups and downs; the key is to balance the good with the low.
Good luck,
Diane
