Dear Diane,
My wife and I are excited to attend the annual spring business gala hosted by my legal firm. The invitation describes the event as a “Black Tie” affair, but most of my coworkers familiar with the gathering have assured me a tuxedo is not necessary. As a relatively new employee, I am wondering if I should stick to the script or take their word for it. Any advice?
Daniel E.
Dear Daniel,
The definition of “Black Tie” is a tuxedo for men and a long gown for women. Although your business associates are probably giving accurate information for the way the office approaches the term, nonetheless, it is incorrect. I would definitely check with the event planner that sent the invitation out and ask for clarification. They may not be aware of the correct meaning of Black Tie, especially if their desired dress for the evening is defined as a cocktail dress for women and a dark suit for men.
Whether or not your colleagues decide to come in a black suit, you always want to look your personal best, which means showing up in a tuxedo. In addition to standing out among your peers, the event coordinator(s) will likely appreciate your efforts to mirror the formality of the evening.
To ensure your look is “Black Tie” approved, here are a few of my dress attire tips:
- A tuxedo includes a tuxedo dinner jacket, shirt with a French cuff, and wing or turn-down collar, matching high-waist trousers, waist covering (a.k.a. cummerbund) or vest and a black bow tie. Even though it may be time-consuming, fasten the bow yourself rather than opting for a pre-tied one. Men should select a formal lace-up or simple, slip-on shoe.
- For ladies, it is customary to wear a floor-length gown. It is best to add more height to the heel when attending a formal gathering but be sure it is style compatible with standing, dancing and walking around. A few pieces of tasteful jewelry and an evening bag complement, but don’t overpower, the formal look. Of course, a black or silver evening bag is a great piece to add as well.
I hope you and your wife enjoy the evening’s festivities!
Best,
Diane
